Kristen Bell just offered up an amazing insight into marriage: it’s hard.

Bell and her husband, Dax Shepard, seem to have an outrageously fun union that can leave us wondering if they possess some secret magic that we mortals don’t know about. From frolicking in the rain for the most epic vacation video ever to the cutest meltdown over a sloth to hilarious commercials spots and adorable twitter exchanges they are just so damn darling. In a recent interview, Bell felt compelled to let her fans know that, while awesome viral videos are a part of their marriage, they don’t tell the whole story.

“I think there’s a bit of personal responsibility,” She told Bustle. “I need to remind people that you don’t just find one person and then it’s all peaches and cream for the rest of your life. Marriage and a relationship is hard work, and it’s a lot of compromise.”

Hard work and compromise? Weren’t we really hoping that they had found some perfect combination of essential oils and voodoo chanting that would make our own marriages as pretty as theirs’ seems to be? It is a nice reminder that everyone—even celebrities—must work at relationships. Bell even admitted that they go to couple’s therapy because they “disagree on 99.9 percent of issues.” She also fessed up, “There are days when I’m completely sick of him, and there are days when he is completely sick of me. But we’ve chosen to love one another and to be a team. We’ve learned how to communicate and argue in a really healthy, respectful way.”

A couple that has been tagged with millions of #relationshipgoals gave us some real goals to talk about. Communication, compromise, and effort are the elements that work behind the scenes of all great marriages. That truth telling is a breath of fresh air in a heavily filtered social media feed. We love them even more for allowing us a small glimpse into their real relationship. Now back to daydreaming about getting an invite to their next vacation…#doubledategoals!