Who isn’t secretly obsessed with celebrity couples? Most people can tell you who Beyoncé is married to and who was Brad Pitt’s girlfriend before Angelina faster than they can name the last ten presidents of the United States. There is something about seeing a relationship magnified by the glamour of Hollywood that reaffirms our own belief in love. Though it can seem like keeping track of famous pairings is like trying to spin plates, there are lots of high-profile marriages and partnerships that have stood the test of time. So what can we learn from these couples?

1. Maggie Gyllenhaal and Peter Sarsgaard

Married for six years and together for over ten, these indie film darlings keep a low profile, living out of the limelight with their two daughters in brownstone Brooklyn. Despite working in the public eye, they have managed to bring a sense of normalcy to their daily lives, all the while cherry picking roles that continue to advance their careers and win critical acclaim. In interviews, Gyllenhaal and Sarsgaard have both said that they work hard to juggle their professional lives with raising a family. The lesson? Relationships are a balancing act between focusing on your life as a couple and you as an individual. As these two hip parents have proved, it is possible.

2. Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell

Together—though still not married—after more than 30 years, these Hollywood staples prove the making it official isn’t every thing. “A lasting relationship isn’t about marriage,” Hawn told Porter magazine in June. “It’s about compatibility and communication.” She continued, “It’s also about not losing yourself in each other. Being together, two pillars holding up the house and the roof, and being different.” Hawn and Russell’s longevity has shown the world that whether or not you tie the knot, a relationship is about the special bond you share with each other.

3. Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka

Though they were only married in 2014, Harris and Burtka are longtime partners. Dating since 2004, they have been together for more than ten years and are the parents of two adorable twins. The couple is outspoken about their love of fatherhood, but perhaps nowhere is this seen more than in Harris/Burtka holiday family portraits. Each year the whole family dresses up for Halloween in a different group costume (so far they’ve done The Wizard of Oz, Peter Pan, Alice in Wonderland, Classic Hollywood Monsters, and Superheroes and Villains) and post the picture on Instagram. Both actors, it’s no wonder Harris and Burtka have a love for the theatrical, but these whimsical portraits prove that there’s always room for a more fun and quirkiness in a relationship!

4. Sharon and Ozzy Osborne

This rock’n’roll couple has been married for 33 years, though like most relationships, they’ve had their ups and downs. Both have big personalities and Ozzy is a recovering drug addict. The Osborne’s marriage is often tempestuous, but ultimately based on a strong foundation of support. During her battle with cancer, Ozzy stood by wife Sharon’s side through the physical and emotional ordeal, and she has helped her husband get clean numerous times. Putting it in no uncertain terms Ozzy told the Mirror, ““I did a good job of killing myself for a few years. I’ve a strong wife who kicks my a** every time I do something wrong.” The message is clear: these two loving, supportive partners are rocks for each other, helping their marriage weather more than one storm.

5. Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson

In all their interviews together Hanks and Wilson are constantly repeating the refrain that they enjoy each other’s company. “Every day is a blast with Rita Wilson,” Hanks told CNN. Married for more than 25 years, the couple still delights in being together, reminding us that marriage is about more than merging assets, having children, and living in the same house. It’s about building a great, lasting friendship.

6. Julia Louis Dreyfus and Brad Hall.

Actor/director/writer Brad Hall and his Emmy-award winning actress wife Julia Louis Dreyfus have enjoyed the spotlight as a married couple for 28 years. Meeting through a comedy troupe in college, the two went on to star in the same cast of Saturday Night Live, and since then have worked together on several different projects. One of the couple’s lesser-known collaborations is their California home, an energy efficient masterpiece. In addition to being entertainers, both Dreyfus and Hall are outspoken environmental activists. By working together politically and professionally, the couple has had a strong, successful marriage—their shared interests and passions fueling both of them creatively and personally.

7. Sarah Michelle Gellar and Freddie Prinze Jr.  

This 90’s power couple that both starred in the 1997 bloody teen-thriller I Know What You Did Last Summer, have now been married for over a decade. Yet, even after all this time, the two still wine and dine each other. In March, Gellar posted a cozy photo on her Instagram with the caption, “Sometimes even parents need a #DateNight Up past ten pm #PartyAnimals Married almost 13 years and still enjoying each other’s company.”  Taking a break from the daily grind and spending a romantic date night with your true love keeps the fire burning.

8. Felicity Huffman and William H. Macy

Huffman and Macy have been married for the last 18 years, but their relationship started long before that. The pair dated for 15 years before saying, “I do.” They have a long-lasting bond that has anchored their lives together. In addition to prodigious acting careers, the couple is notorious for a little PDA on the red carpet. Like Huffman and Macy, it never hurts to show affection—any time, anywhere—whether you hold their hand or plant a big one!

9. Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith

A Hollywood power couple, Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith have been married for 17 years. For any couple with such a high profile, it’s no surprise that over the years there have been several rumors of infidelity and divorce, but the pair has stayed together throughout. In a radio interview with Howard Stern, Pinkett Smith revealed the secret to their strong marriage. “You’ve gotta trust who you’re with…” she told Stern, “Here’s what I trust: the man that Will is… is a man of integrity.” The bedrock of any strong relationship, trust is undoubtedly one of the keys to happy, successful marriage.

10. Annette Bening and Warren Beatty

When they first met, Bening and Beatty seemed like an unlikely pair. Beatty was an infamous Hollywood playboy and Bening a relative newcomer and plain-dressed Kansas girl. But, the unassuming Midwesterner managed to tame the lothario and the two have now been married for 27 years. Bening and Beatty are living proof of the old dictum, opposites attract. Through celebrating each other’s differences, couples can build a solid future in common.

11. Kevin Bacon and Kyra Sedgwick

Whether it’s Sedgwick blushing during a CNN interview after listening to Bacon’s compliments, or Bacon posting romantic sentiments on Twitter, after 27 years of marriage, this couple’s continuing affection for each other is undeniable. Sedgwick is quoted as saying, “When he walks into a room my heart gets a little flutter and I think, oh, he’s so cute. He’s so hot.” The pair’s public declarations go to show that romance never has to end and you can still shout it from the rooftops no matter how long you’ve been together.

12. Sting and Trudie Styler

Together for over 30 years and married for 23, Sting and wife Trudie Styler seem as deeply in love as ever. The two have four children and successful careers, but perhaps as a pair they are best known for their sexual intensity. Sting and Styler have said famously said that they practice tantric sex, being able to have love making sessions go on for hours at time. This chemistry in the bedroom has helped sustain their marriage and is a reminder to make an effort to keep things hot. In an interview with Harper’s Bazaar Sting confessed, “I don’t think pedestrian sex is very interesting. There’s a playfulness we have; I like the theater of sex. I like to look good. I like her to dress up…We like tawdry.”